Human Sexuality is Fascinating

So I added fetishes to my adverts, on top of nude handy/household services and fantasy fulfillment. I kept getting responses that asked; "That's too weird, isn't it?" I have to honestly answer that question, no, it's really not too weird.

There are certainly things I won't do - I'm not into bodily waste, blood, scarring or extreme pain. But I certainly understand that some people are and respect that. In spite of my lines being drawn at having those inflicted upon my person, it's really not too weird for me - I just don't want to be pissed on (though for the right price, I can certainly do that for someone else) and refuse to be involved in blood play for liability reasons.

What I find fascinating though, is the wide range of seemingly mundane things, that just happen to be the thing that gets someone off. From a psychological perspective, I can imagine where some of it comes from. We really do bring our childhoods with us into adulthood and seemingly trivial (and often far from trivial) experiences from childhood can have a profound influence on our sexuality.

So today's new ad, includes my foot size.

Over the last three days, I have met with three different men who have foot fetishes (I apparently have very well formed feet). While it is absolutely true that there were profound differences in their fetishes, there were also remarkable similarities. The major running theme is humiliation. Humiliation and some pain, in one case rather severe, in another more like the implication of pain.

While my primary clientele, gay men, can carry more baggage that can lend itself to guilt and humiliation issues, I have noted that it isn't restricted to gays at all. What I have found to be common with my own clientele who are into being dominated (most common fetish, with feet running close behind), is that they invariably had an upbringing that included rather conservative religious dogma and now carry the attendant guilt (or the scars of that guilt) for being such vile sinners and disappointing their families. This isn't true of all of them, but it does seem to be almost inherent in the ones who are really into being punished most severely.

I have yet to be contacted by anyone for defication, though I was contacted by a straight guy who was interested in being urinated on. But I have a client who told me that he's interested in it and he just happened to be one who was interested in being beaten to a degree that I was unwilling to provide - again for liability reasons. I tend to think that this fetish is just an extenuation of the same issues that lend one to be turned on by humiliation and pain. It is actually because of this understanding that I wouldn't call bodily waste fetishes weird.

It is really easy to label people freaks and undesirable, because they are into things that we don't understand. There are folks who get off ob being babied - literally. That's pretty fucking bizarre, right? And yet why is it weird? Seriously now, I want you to really think about it and try to imagine why the person who feels sexy in diapers, might feel that way. Why they like to have someone change their diaper, when they have an "accident." I am going to post my supposition about this another time, but I'll give you a hint;

Baby fetishists tend to have positions of power and authority in the "real" world.

The thing about the strange and truly bizarre, is that they tend to stop being strange and bizarre when we figure out where they came from. Hell, it becomes less foreign when we just accept that it comes from somewhere, even if we might not understand it. Too much for me, it might be. Too gross, that happens too. But;

No. It's really not too weird.

Something else I added to my ad today. And with that, I must be off. I am heading over to provide my first "regular" with a good lay. So have a nice day and like me, please cover up, before you fuck - at least if you engage in sex with multiple partners.